It was about 2000 years ago that Christ came to shed His blood for you. He did it for good reason: You were in bondage with no way out…He died to loose you from sin and His sacrifice is a gift, a gift you know as forgiveness. You receive this gift when you confess your sins in earnest. This means that you must show remorse when you seek forgiveness for without remorse, there’s no gift.
What is remorse? Webster’s Third Edition describes it this way:
1 a : a gnawing distress arising from a sense of guilt for past wrongs (as injuries done to others) : *felt a twinge of remorse for having been so brusque* b : an attack of remorse
2 obsolete : sympathetic sorrow : COMPASSION
Forgiveness requires a change of heart because remorse requires a change of heart; it’s a change that shows compassion to the one you’ve wronged. Without compassion, there’s no remorse and without remorse, there’s no forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 KJV tells you that forgiveness begins when you confess for the wrong you’ve done:
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
God sees your sincerity, or lack thereof and He renders to you based on what’s in your heart. 2 Chron. 6:30 KJV is where you read this:
Then hear thou from heaven thy dwelling place, and forgive, and render unto every man according unto all his ways, whose heart thou knowest; (for thou only knowest the hearts of the children of men:)
Understanding that God sees inside your heart, you know He’s looking for more than yesterday’s words; He expects sincerity so don’t be repetitive…Open up to Him; He’s your closest friend.
Christ’s Death paved the way for you to receive Forgiveness and Col. 3:13 KJV teaches that, like Christ, you also must forgive:
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
You forgive your brother over and over, just as Christ forgives you, but first your brother must confess, and show remorse for doing you wrong. You learn in Luke 17:3-4 KJV that if he doesn’t repent, you rebuke Him:
Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.
Repentance requires remorse! When you show remorse, Christ forgives you because He knows that you mean it. It’s for that same reason that He expects